Can men and women not be friends? I went out last night after seeing a client to a really interesting open mic event. Thank god there was a girlfriend at the bar who is just as snarky and cynical as I am. We traded notes, a`la High School on her sketch pad, making notes and observations on the acts and the crowd. She is an excellent drinking buddy as she requires bartender intervention like I do :)
A male friend of mine was there working and I tried talk to him between sets and he just couldn't seem to engage in the usual banter we have. Maybe because I had on "bar clothes" and makeup versus "mom wear". Shrug. I flirted, I flirt with EVERYONE, it's just how I am, and he reacted by physical and emotionally leaving me be. He was kind and sweet enough to make sure "A" (drinking buddy) and I had a way to get home safely but he bolted for the door after the crowd left and made an odd phone call to me this morning to, sweetly, check that I got home okay. I tried to talk to him about maybe how I shouldn't hang at the same clubs/venues as him, but he has yet to address the issue.
I am glad at 36 I am still attractive to people but should that be a barrier to a long standing friendship? I feel like I lost a good friend because I wore eyeliner and tight jeans.
Is it a male thing? Can men not be friends with women they are remotely physically attracted to? Why????
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